Thanksgiving is a day for family, food, football, and celebration. So how do you get through it without your baby?  It takes courage to get through a holiday, so if you aren't feeling courageous, then skip it. But if you’re worried about being sad while others are happy and celebrating, don’t let that stop you. Nobody expects you to be the life of the party; they’re just glad you took the steps to show up. There is no way to prevent holidays from coming. As difficult as holidays are, you will have to experience them at some point. Sometimes we see these days coming, and the lead-up days are harder than the day itself. Unfortunately, these days are part of the way forward through grief.

Things to remember during holiday gatherings:

Others will say things that are intended to be helpful, but aren't. Take what is and leave what isn't.

Grief and joy can coexist; don't feel guilty for the joy. No matter how you grieve,  you deserve to grieve guilt-free.

The first holidays will crush you, but eventually, you will learn how to carry the weight of this pain.

Someone may say something about "moving on." Just remember, that person has never lost their child.

Surviving the loss of your baby is the hardest thing you will ever do.

Know that Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support is here for you.  You may not hear us or see us, but we are right there with you. Right beside you, holding your hand through this holiday.

Do what feels right to you.

Just Breathe.

With Love, the Share Staff